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- Oct 29th 2007
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(Cross posted to my LiveJournal and my deviantArt.)
Backstory: Life at home is driving me insane. I am devising a plan to get out for good, because I swear bad things will happen if I stay with my mom. @__@ My parents are seperated and if it wasn't obvious, I live with my mom.
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My dad has offered housing to me. I think it's a good idea, but let's go through the pros and cons, shall we? I want to know what you guys think.
Pros
-Getting out of my mom's house. This should be self-explanatory. @__@
-I will be alone most of the week. My dad's a merchandiser, which means he goes around and fixes up the stores so they can look all nice for the customers. He works Mon-Fri. Leaves Monday morning, comes back Friday night.
-Everything's closer around. Yay for civilization!
-More job opportunities. Also self explanatory.
-College nearby (as in, walking distance nearby), with opportunities to get into awesome ones. UCLA comes to mind.
-I don't have to worry about getting a job right away. My 'rents both decided it was okay for me to live with them for free after turning legal, AS LONG as I stay in school.
-My dad is insanely nice all around, and is supportive, something my mother lacks. Did I mention I totally love my dad more than my mom?
-It will be just the two of us, just for the most part.
-The neighbors know me, so it won't be completely lonely.
-DID I MENTION GETTING OUT OF MY MOM'S HOUSE? @__@
Cons
-He lives in East LA, which isn't the GREATEST of neighborhoods. It's supposed to be in it's good cycle right now, but still.
-I am not completely out of family clutches. My mom says she'll come by to check up every so often, and my sisters will still come by every other week or so.
-Can't leave 'til December, obviously.
-The college nearby is another CC, but I guess it won't be that bad.
-Alone most of the time. Again, not that big, but I won't have too many people. But maybe I'll just make a bunch of friends and TAKE THEM HOME WITH ME.
-LA as a whole isn't the cleanest of cities. I have asthma, even though it's sporadic.
-I am a bit paranoid of the city, relating back to the first one. But I am easily paranoid-ed, so eh.
-Feminine matters come to mind. >_> That shouldn't be too bad either, actually. o__O
-There are times where my dad gets placed at stores for longer than a week. Going to Las Vegas for 3 weeks comes to mind, along with going to Boston for a month.
All in all, I don't see too much of a problem with it. At the very least, it's escape from teh EVIL HOUSE. It's not much, but it's a step in the right direction.
My mom is completely okay with this, however she's under the strange notion this is going to be a "trial run". Wtf? Sorry, but no. Once I get out, I'm not coming back unless I HAVE TO. (Birthdays come to mind now. I despise my mom, but I won't let my sisters suffer because of it.)
Seikosama Says:
Well... If you feel comfortable with it, do so. My parents are separated too, so I know this can be a touch choice.
BlackWidowQueen Says:
GO TO THE BETTER PARENTS.
It makes a world of good. It's what I would do if both of my parents weren't equally sucktastic.
purenightshade Says:
To me, that sounds like an ideal situation. I do quite well when I'm left alone for long periods of time. I lived on my own for about two years and it was great. My parents were there to help when I needed them and my oldest brother swung by on occasion to hang out.
To me, this situation with your dad sounds like a trial run, but not what your mom is thinking. Sounds like a test to see if you can deal with being by yourself. It looks like it would be good for you 'cause, as you said, it gets you out of a place you don't want to be and into a place where there are more opportunities for you. And just remember, if you feel lonely, we'll always be here for you. I know we're pretty much just internet handles and digital messages, but we care about you and will talk if you need someone.
nare Says:
Again, GET OUT OF THERE, NOW!!
Sammychan Says:
I'd say that if moving is comfortable to you then go for it. If things are bad at home and don't seem to be improving then give what your dad suggested a trial run. Its not healthy to stay somewhere that you're not happy so just do what feels right for you Riyna and like Pure said, if you need us just im/journal/email etc.