- Posted
- Apr 11th 2007
- Mood
- Disgusted
Today was your average day for me. Get up 10 minutes before my ride to school was supposed to get here, beg my mom to take me, etc. I went through school really tired, and almost made it through the day without anything really bad happening. At 2:10 the worst thing to happen to me that day was my binder with all my schoolwork getting stolen, but you know what... I got it back, so no biggie there. Well at about 2:15 my teacher gets a call from the attendance office. She says "Alyssa, your mom is in the attendance office and it's an emergency." The first thing I say to that is "Well, who died?"... jokingly, not yet aware what I just said is the horrible truth ahead of me. So, at this point I am under the impression that I am in trouble for all the ditching I do. I walk quickly to the office, in the door, and my mom and her boyfriend Doug are standing waiting for me. I look at them, and can instantly tell that this is not about ditching, or any menial thing like that. I ask, "What happened?", get no reply. So I ask again... and again, atleast 10 times. Then when we step outside the office door I look at my mom and basically show her that I am not walking one more step without knowing what happened. My mind is racing.... ' Is it Nicole? Grandpa? What?! ' Then I hear it...... "Grandma was in a car accident and didn't make it." This is where things get blurry... I JUST was with my grandma. I spent my entire spring break with her. I cannot believe that now, just like that, I no longer have a grandma. It's surreal, unbelievable. I want it to just be some sick and cruel joke, no. She was getting a ride to go get her hair done, and a man driving 60 mph slammed into the passenger side of the car, where she was seated. The force of the impact was so tremendous that my grandma's friend's dentures broke in his mouth. The autopsy on my granmda revealed that the force tore her Aorta from her heart. She bled to death in the helicopter that came to airlift her to a more equipped facility....
The worst thing in this whole ordeal is that, in the midst of people losing a mother, wife, grandmother, friend, daughter, sister, aunt, etc. all anyone can think about is money. A supposed $5,000 she has tucked away in her trailer... Well, that is not what I want. I want the drawings/photos I gave her. The sentimental things. I am not even going to cash the check she gave me for my birthday tomorrow, I'd rather keep the check than exchange it for $100. It is worth more to me than that.
I love my grandma, and I am forever greatful that I was able to spend a week with her before her untimely death.
The last photo ever taken of her:
http://www.sheezyart.com/view/1159776/
GothamEyes Says:
You still have a grandma, dont say u dont... she is not here, but she willl always be your grandma... about the check... if she gave you it... then... i think you should cach it and save the money in some account... she would tell you that.. im pretty sure... Hope the guilty driver know what he have done... and pays for it... hugs and kisses for you my friend... ^-^
Abstract Says:
I can't say that I fully understand what you're going through - I fortunately still have my grandmother, and so I can only imagine. I'm very happy to hear that you got a picture of her, though. As a photographer, I place a great emphasis on photos, it's wonderful that you've got a memory of her happy and smiling that you can look at anytime.
I know you don't want to focus on money during this, but GothamEyes is right. You should cash the check she gave you, and enjoy it. That's what she intended when she gave it to you.
You're welcome to talk to me anytime, if you need someone to listen. Just contact me on my account or IM names.
Minstrel Ayreon Says:
As I said in response to the photo you posted of her...you have my condolences and that's by far the most important of anything I'm going to say.
I'm not really sure what to say about the check other than to try and consider what her intention was in giving it to you. I can see how important keeping it as a sign of remembrance would be. There are many ways to keep it that way, ranging from keeping it as-is, to what GothamEyes and Abstract have each suggested, or even maybe giving it to a charitable cause in her memory. But this is something I recommend you wait on deciding for awhile--for now I'd just hang on to it, maybe ask the advice of family, as I do not know what the situation is with it and I don't want the details.
I understand about wanting the drawings. When my great-grandmother passed away and all the relatives came, I was worried about what was going to happen to a drawing I did of one of her sons who had passed away. I wanted to make sure it wound up in good hands--either mine, or someone it could mean a lot to, and it honestly was a big concern to me. Fortunately, my great aunt--her son's widow--got it. Our two sides of the family don't really meet up much, so it's probably over there permanently now, but if it's where it can be appreciated, that's good. I hope that you get all of the pictures sorted out in a way that is meaningful to you and everyone else.
CrimsonInHumanBlood Says:
thats really sad, sorry to hear that. you've been having a string of bad luck =[ but life is never easy. things will get better for you sometime or later.
sadly i don't have anymore grandma's i have a grandpa though. but always be greatful for what you have. You don't know how good you have it until its gone.
Your b/days tomorrow? O_o well happy birthday. hope its a good day.
CrimsonInHumanBlood Says:
thats really sad, sorry to hear that. you've been having a string of bad luck =[ but life is never easy. things will get better for you sometime or later.
sadly i don't have anymore grandma's i have a grandpa though. but always be greatful for what you have. You don't know how good you have it until its gone.
Your b/days tomorrow? O_o well happy birthday. hope its a good day.
CrimsonInHumanBlood Says:
thats really sad, sorry to hear that. you've been having a string of bad luck =[ but life is never easy. things will get better for you sometime or later.
sadly i don't have anymore grandma's i have a grandpa though. but always be greatful for what you have. You don't know how good you have it until its gone.
Your b/days tomorrow? O_o well happy birthday. hope its a good day.