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- Oct 14th 2006
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Well, i have talked to my mom and aunt about somethings that i have been thinkin about, and i assured them, "well, my friends got my back", and both my mom and aunt responed "Dont be so sure"
Are they trying to make me feel like i cant trust my friends? I do believe that if i needed them, Izzy, Ayla, Kev, Shawn, Morgie, all of em would have my back if i needed them. Thats just something i expect of my friends, the few i have. I will have their back, if they need me, i will help them out at anytime, rain or shine, 12 pm or 3am, it doesn't matter, i'm always there for them, and i think if i'm willing to do that for them, then they would do it for me. They have all said they got my back and am i being stupid for believing them? I dont think i am, but my mom seems to think i should just rely on them. Its not to say that i wouldnt' come to my family, i would, of course, but sometimes its easier to go to my friends.
Anyway, just wanted to know what you guys thought. Am i being stupid when i say my friends got my back? Should i not rely on my friends as much as i do? Not like i'm gonna stop, i cant, its kinda like it was part of the unwritten deal i made with my friends, "i got your back, adn you got mine".
:3 Luv all you guys!
Bri
AshFallenAngel Says:
I GOTS YOUR BACK TOO
parents can be wrong sometimes too
shadowprime Says:
well I sadly don't have my friends back most of the time, I mean I can back out of things quite easily, however whne its over something serious I'm there to help.
GeLaTiNoUs TuRnCoAt Says:
-If you need something, and I have the power to give it, I will. If I don't, I'll find it. If I can't, I'll find someone who can and if that fails, then all I can give you is the knowledge I would give it if I could.
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-I believe this well explains the relationship between us (your friends) and you (yourself LAWL).
-However, I think your parents are worried that either:
A- Your friends might avoid you if something really bad happens to you, leaving you without anyone to work with or...
B- Your friends do not posses the power or wisdom to actually help you back up on your feet AND point you in the right direction.
*Here's how your parents are thinking:
-"She SAYS she'll come to us if she needs us, but it always feels like she goes to her friends first, how can I beleive her?"
-"I remember all the bad things I did as a kid, and that worries me that her friends might accidentally encourage her to make bad descisions while recovering from a catastrophe"
-"Modern society and the race for popularity as a young adult in school is viscious, therefore, there's too high a risk that my baby's 'friends' will bail on her when the going gets rough."
Basically, your parents will always believe they are the best shoudler for you to fall on. It doesn't matter how good of a person any of your friends are, they're simply your parents and they love you too much to believe anyone could do a better job of helping you. T-T I have to say, I never had many friends that were really supportive when the going got rough, but the ones that did really made me feel better (and sometimes they made me feel more special than my parents do). In short, think about who you truly believe will be there for you by how they've reacted in the past; Make an unwritten, ordered, list of who you trust the most/least and odds are, you'll see that many of your friends deserve the trust you put in them. ^^ Hope I helped! (PS: I miss you
ShadowFire09 Says:
Hey Miss Munk
you sure in hell know that i am there for you ... if you need me...i don't care what anybody says about that..and what the hell is up with mister your friend will not support you if things get really bad...what the hell does he know..I understand that your parents think that you should go to them first, mine do to, but as you said it's easier to go to friends first...and speaking for myself..if you need help i am here..you know this and I'll help the best i can..i came to you first when i had some trouble..and i know you expect the same from me...so ya that what i have to say; your not stupid to say your friends got your back....agrr ryan comment is pissing me off...
Doodman20 Says:
Well, I think it's just your mom might not know any of your friends well, and she might not know how well they would protect your back. So she's worried about you and No your trust isn't missplaced. We got your back! :)
Tigerprime Says:
I don't think your stupid for saying that
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I got your back too then
Ericaka Says:
I wouldn't worry about it, if they're your real friends they will back you up no matter what and if they don't you know they aren't really your friends. Your moms probably just worried that if they would back you up or not. Its not her fault, shes a mom!